Home Stay - Part I: Homecoming

As part of the UConn study abroad program, we've been scheduled to spend the weekend with various families in Ocean View, Cape Town. Ocean View was established in 1968 as a township for coloured people who had been forcibly removed from so called "white areas" by the former apartheid government under the Group Areas Act. It was first called Slangkop and the first resident moved in 1 August 1968. It was ironically named Ocean View, with residents being removed from their previous sea-side homes and views. As a result, its history is thoroughly embedded in apartheid.

We got off the bus in the parking lot of a casually posh food and wine shop which was abutted by an antique shop, a used book shop, a small restaurant, and various other tourist traps with wares clearly priced beyond the reach of locals. Just beyond the parking lot, there were horses and white camels to ride, and a small farm where children could view and pet animals. An ocean breeze kicked up the red dust of the parking lot, and I raised my hand to shield my eyes. “Maybe we're just making a pit stop,” I thought. The wind kicked up more fiercely this time and my hand was not enough. I turned my back against the dust, swiped at my eyes with a handkerchief, and opened them.

Across the road from where we were, a multitude of colored building in varying states of disrepair lay scattered across the hills at the foot of the mountain. Some of the buildings were little more that shacks, planks of wood and piles of bricks and stones settled under a corrugated tin roof. Behind them, the mountains loomed, sketching a permanent and unforgiving horizon. Bushes and trees lay strewn about and between stones of dreary grey and brilliant white. The wind blew once again and I shivered.

We were led across the road toward a grassy park fringed with palm trees. The grass was different somehow, a tougher kind than I'd known at home. A swing set and monkey bars sat on the far side of the park, brightly colored, empty. We cut across the park in silence, bags in tow, toward the building.

On the other side of the park, short home sat stacked directly beside one another, shoulder to shoulder, yet set apart from one another by chest-high stone walls or fences topped with cruel pointed ends. Here and there, people lingered in and around the street, on their front porch, behind windows, watching us. The staring was nothing new. By now, we learned that it was simply blatant curiosity and nothing more. We waved and flashed smiles. “Hello!” The curiously faces brightened, cheeks upturned, lips parting on beautiful teeth. “Hello!” they returned.

The wind tossed bits of trash here and there, tumbling in and out of the road, onto lawns (such as they were), mingling with the dust in the air. A filthy dog sidled up to our caravan and began smelling my hand. “Hello!” I said. It seemed the right thing to do. He sniffed me a time or two more before sitting back on his haunches and laying down in the road, a bright pink tongue lolling out of his open mouth. I reached down to pet him and was told “We don't touch the dogs here.” There was no further explanation and nothing more was said on the matter.

We trudged under a labourer's sun, sweated, buffeted by dusty wind, winding through the streets of an unknown town. Endless rows of eyes watched us as we trekked through the streets and past the homes. Soon, we came upon a large building, easily the largest in town, that marked Ocean View's center, housing a few shops and a dentist's office. Here, I noticed more dogs, some as filthy and nature-worn as the first, some domesticated and well groomed, all of them friendly, curious, each padding toward us to investigate for themselves. We crossed a dirt and grass square and started up another unfamiliar street.

Halfway down this new road, we were ushered into the garage of one of the homes – a quaint mustard colored building with a neat yard and various flowers and plants on display. The garage was deep enough for three cars but none were parked here. Instead, the space had been converted into a “Crèche” – what we'd call a kindergarten in the States. In place of a bare concrete floor and walls lined with tools, the floor was carpeted and the walls decorated with educational posters. A bank of cubbies stood near the front of the room,, each marked with a child's name. In the rear was a small bookcase with a few books resting on top of it. Behind that, a small basket of toys lay just out of sight. Colorful plastic child-sized tables and chairs were stacked neatly against one wall. We filed in and sat on the floor.

The people that introduced themselves and welcomed us to town were wonderfully upbeat, bright, friendly, passionate. We were told that we would be volunteering with children the following morning though the following afternoon and, though I had already heard this before, I cringed. I do not do well with children.

After a few more introductions and prayer, we were sent off in pairs to various homes in town to meet and settle in with the families we'd be staying with. I'm marched off with someone else to a small home on the opposite side of the town center. It, too, is modest, outfitted with a small neat fence and carefully tiled patio. We walk inside, eager to rest but expecting another task. Thankfully, we are shown to our rooms straight away and allowed to unburden ourselves.

The house was not what I expected, or, rather, what I was told to expect.

“This will be nothing like America. Don't go looking for anything like America because it is not there. You will not find it.”

We were not told what we would find, only that it would be foreign, unfamiliar. Walking through the home toward my room, I struggled to reconcile the expectations with my reality. This was a lovely home, cleverly arranged and well appointed, very much like what I could find in the US. I started to think that maybe I had missed out on the irony of our pre-visit meeting. Everything was new, but everything was familiar. I felt at home immediately.

Bags down and shoes off, I emerged from my new room and joined my new “parents” on the couch. Here, instead of ma'am and sir, respected elders are called “Auntie” and “Uncle”. It was unusual but not out of my comfort zone.

“Would you like a beer?”Uncle asked.

“Sure!” I said, hoping I didn't sound as enthusiastic as I felt, hoping more so that it would not be just one beer. “I also brought a bottle of wine as a gift,” I said, standing and crossing the room to get it for them.

“Do you want to open that now?” Uncle asked.

“I... well that's for you and Auntie,” I said, slightly unsure if my subtle declination constituted a breech of etiquette. Quickly, I added, “Am I still getting a beer?”

Uncle flashed an impish grin and handed me a beer. I liked him instantly.